Just going to put this woman on blast because I really appreciate her newsletters. Her name is Bella McCaffrey and she is re-imaging the future of work, including being purpose-driven, and more authentic in the interactions we have. She’s all about building community and achieving your goals, which is my kind of gal.
I particularly like this post from her quote at the top: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
And she’s right. Your inner crowd will grow you and hopefully challenge and support you. I realize that’s what I left when I left Boston, and what really left me as I left Harvard, and it has been really hard to come to terms with that. Although there are still plenty of fish in the sea, my day ones are still the finest catch.
I’m also starting to really like James Altucher. Not always a fan of his writing style, but occasionally he has some gems. This snippet being one of them for me.
The 5×5 Rule
I spent all my time hanging out with people who only valued money. This is what happened: I ended up valuing money too much. I lost it all. I stopped being creative. I started being arrogant.
The road to recovery was: I had to start hanging out with a different group of people.
- you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
- your health is the average of the 5 foods you eat the most
- your mental state is the average of the 5 things you think about the most.
- your creativity is the average of the five works of art you spend the most time trying to read or watch or understand.
- your ability to be loved is the average of the five things you most do that are lovable.
Corollary: Stand next to the smartest person in the room.
Persistence + Love = Abundance
Everything in life is pretty difficult. Being born is difficult. And it starts there.
When I wanted to write and public a book, I wrote 4 unpublishable novels, I wrote 40–50 short stories. I pitched and shot pilots for two different TV shows. I did years of research and work on the topic that eventually became my first published book.
Now 18 books later I’m debating working on the 19th.
The same is true for business, for love, for health.
The 1,000 Hour Rule (or “Idea Sex”).
It took the Beatles, Einstein, Bobby Fischer, Mozart, Michael Jordan, etc 10,000 hours of work to be the best in the world at music, math, chess, etc.
But the 10,000 hour rule can be beat.
Spend 500 hours getting pretty good at one thing. Spend 500 hours getting pretty good at something else.
Now you will be the best in the world at the intersection.